I take a walk to the park everyday by 7:00pm in the evening to clear my thought of the dilemma I have found myself. As I sat and watched people walk back and forth my tears will run down my face uncontrollably. I would wipe it off as usual and face the trees so no one will throw a pity party for me.
    Well, I am from the northern part of Nigeria and my grandfather is allowed to marry as many wives as he would love to marry and I am not saying other tribes do not do that but please read on and tell me what you feel....

  My mother is a very beautiful lady, dark, tall and wonderfully shaped. Oh her eyes glowed every time even when she wasn't eating, she was happy, she would make you happy and we all loved to be around her because she was very welcoming and an interesting person to tell stories with. But that's not it....
   My beautiful mother was impregnated while she was growing up. The shame she faced when my grandparents found out, her friends left her because they said bad company corrupts good manners, she was a disgrace to the entire community and she was treated with disdain as someone with a deadly plague.
     Then she was forced to show them the boy that impregnated their daughter without any plans of marrying her...
     'Adams was a nonchalant person, very handsome and tall I must say' I soliloquised
     'That's the guy papa'  'This dirty looking boy ehn Emilia'?
     'When do you intend to marry my daughter'? Papa asked Adams
    'I am not ready for marriage' He blurted out
    'Emilia you see the kind of boy you fell for? This boy that doesn't even love you or care about your welfare, this boy that can't take up his responsibility?" You are a disgrace he told Emilia" By now people had gathered around them from the community so it was an open secret. Emilia cried back with shame cursing him bitterly.
      After nine months, she delivered a baby girl, a very beautiful one as that and called her Mariam meaning bitterness... As I grew older I realized that when my mother would be muttering things at night like she was praying, she was actually crying. She would cry every night and this man that is my father won't still marry her? She got a job after twelve years and left the house thereby leaving me too as I was asked to live with my grandfather and his wives and children. She left me because she was ashamed to put me there in public and be ridiculed by fellow women or scared of not being married again since she was a second hand material now. But I know she loves me very much.
       Anyway, she got married after three years of working and the man asked her not to bring me to their matrimonial home so I still have to live with my grandfather. He didn't have money to put me in a school so I was also towing that line and decided against it. My mother's siblings also have babies out of wedlock and I know the pain and shame they go through. There should be a law against men that impregnate women without marrying them in Nigeria. There should be child support or a jail sentence.



WHY DO THESE MEN DESTROY OUR LADIES AND SAY THEY WONT MARRY THEM?
Look at the pain they go through.
The hurt.
The sacrifice so that the child will live.
The shame.
The child also goes through such pain knowing her parents are not together.

This was sent in by an anonymous so I decided to let the world know. Please leave your comments. Thanks
   

GUYS SOMETHING SIMPLE AND COOL FOR SUMMER

These are different beautiful ways to wear the native attire. No matter how you wear it, you should feel confident in the attire. It could be worn to a family function, gathering of friends or our 'owambe' parties (birthday or wedding ceremony).

You are stunning

Its no crime to be sexy... No matter what you look like, you are adorable and one person out there is crazy about you. #TarajiPhenson is hot and you should be hot too. Either as a man or a woman, as you dress up each day, bear in mind that someone is watching.

#TEAMSEXY

PURSUIT OF LOVE5

This is the new series for AdorableFaces.

WHAT SHOULD I DO??
I DATED MY GIRLFRIEND'S BESTFRIEND AND NOW I AM IN LOVE WITH HER SISTER



'But why did you do it'? She screamed.. I could hear the pain in her voice, I felt it. I was truly sorry because I loved her and I still do.
'Desire baby I'm sorry but what are you talking about'? I questioned acting so ignorant
'Stop that' she wept.
'How could you do that with my best friend'? I heard it from a very good source. Both of you kissed. Jeez Olamide how could you?
She found out? I asked my dumb self but was grateful that she didn't find out the other parts and I was never going to tell her. I will bury it.

Baby I didn't do anything. You have to believe me. I finally convinced her I even used the 'look into my eyes t' and she hugged me and let it go. She is very kind I must say. I knew she was angry because she mentioned my name in full, through out that month I avoided Lisa like a plague but we couldn't continue so we decided to stop and stick to our relationships.

 Our graduation was wonderful as we were still together, our families sat together under one canopy. Oh yea I promised to marry her.
 Then I met her sister.!!!
Now I am in love with her sister and I don't know what to do?

WHAT SHOULD I DO?

This is the new series for AdorableFaces.

WHAT SHOULD I DO??
I DATED MY GIRLFRIEND'S BESTFRIEND AND NOW I AM IN LOVE WITH HER SISTER



....Because I was still not standing on my feet without a walking stick, I had so much care and love from ladies.. They showed me their soft sides. Then Lisa my desire's best friend came unto me, she told me that she was in love with me and she meant it. At first, I was pissed at her and told her that her friend trusts her. But after a while I started loving the attention she gave me. Gradually, I started developing feelings for her and saw her as beautiful.
    One day, I was lonely as I and my desire had a fight so Lisa called me and agreed to come out to hang out with me. That day, it happened.. We kissed and made out and Oooh! our love increased. From that day on, we didn't care about what people thought about us, all we wanted was to love each other and stay in love. When Desire asked me what was going on with I and Lisa???
  'DING-DONG Lady we are friends just like both of you are'. I said boldly
Whoops! I was safe. 

PURSUIT OF LOVE 3

This is the new series for AdorableFaces.

WHAT SHOULD I DO??
I DATED MY GIRLFRIEND'S BESTFRIEND AND NOW I AM IN LOVE WITH HER SISTER


Then I got back to school and she was so excited. I saw it in her smile. She was happy that I was around to protect her and be her friend again but then her best friend Lisa is a very caring person even more than the lady I adored.
  Desire took care of me so that I could heal fast and play how I had always played. I was satisfied with that and then one day, even with my crutches I asked her out. You should have seen the tension that ensued... She wasn't expecting it!
 BOOM! she left me there and went to her room without another word..
   I called her for days, she won't pick or return my calls. It killed me not knowing why she was ignoring me.

Then she replied me.... We met in the school's café... She agreed to date me.
That was the BEST day of my life. I promised her all that came out of my mouth. She was caring and loveable. She told me how much she loved me  and she actually did....

  Then something flipped....